As I sit here writing this article, I can hear the siren voice of the late Edith Piaf screaming, “No, no regrets. No, we will have no regrets.” The absolute worst haunting thoughts are the “what if’s” and “should haves” in life. To avoid those awful begrudging feelings from floating up to your consciousness, follow my easy-to-use Guide To Living Guilt-Free This Year!
1. Dance to the Beat of Your Own Drum
One sure way to regret the life you lived is to listen to everyone else. You are better off fighting with those highly opinionated “I know better than you’s” then you are battling each and every day with that inner voice inside. Even if you boldly step out into the unknown, and it ends up being a disaster, at least, you tried. Bruce Springsteen’s parents wanted him to be a lawyer or a schoolteacher. If he had chosen to listen to them, instead of his inner calling, we wouldn’t have hits like Thunder Road or Born To Run. Who knows what your inner voice is about to bring to this world!
2. Say What You Need to Say
I know this is starting to feel like a mixed tape, but I am once again reminded of a song that drums in this “No Regrets” theme we are tackling. John Mayer’s words say it best, “Have no fear for giving in. Have no fear for giving over. You’d better know that in the end it’s better to say too much than never say what you need to say again.” Never miss a chance to tell those you love how much you care. Stand up for yourself each and every time someone tries to walk all over you. Be brave and speak up. It may be scary but sitting up at night losing sleep because you didn’t say what you needed to say is a whole lot scarier!
That means forgiving yourself and others. You aren’t doing anyone but yourself harm when you harbor bitterness inside for someone else. The amount of physical and mental damage unforgiveness does simply is not worth it. Also, find a way to be easier on yourself. If you try your very best, then you have right to have self-guilt. Always give your all and try your hardest and if you do that, then you will be able to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and keep going. It’s not about falling down; it’s about how quick you jump back up and go back at it.
4. Change How You Look At Things
Wayne Dyer said it best when he stated, “When you change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” Sometimes all we need is a perspective shift. Putting a positive spin on things can take a way that inner voice that hails the “you should have’s” at you. You could remove all the bad that has ever happened to you, but you would have to wipe out all the good too because everything is contingent on everything else in life. You may regret ever meeting the mother of your child, but then your child wouldn’t be here. We must go through each and everything that we go through in order to make it to the next level. Be grateful for each and every occurrence in your life because it needed to happen.
5. Loosen Up
Stop taking life so seriously. Learn to laugh! When you start to laugh, the world laughs with you, not at you. Life is so much easier to handle with a good attitude, and people love to be around others that make them laugh. Sacrifice your self-importance and learn to chuckle, you will find that your resiliency to life’s woes will increase. Your heart becomes grateful for all the opportunities you are given that make you smile!
Life speeds by before you know it. You only get one chance at this, so let’s all live life to the fullest. Hold your head high; keep your mind clear, your heart open and go boldly into the rest of this new year. Resolve to live with NO REGRETS!!!
“Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.”